<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[More Than Code]]></title><description><![CDATA[Blog by @knownasilya about life and web development.]]></description><link>https://ilyaradchenko.com</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Mon, 18 May 2026 02:31:04 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://ilyaradchenko.com" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><pubDate>Fri, 06 Sep 2024 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate><item><title><![CDATA[Bed time rituals]]></title><description><![CDATA[Was reading Chuck's [latest post](https://cagrimmett.com/2024/08/13/indieweb-carnival-rituals/) and whole heartedly agree that kids love routine. I have to keep reminding myself of this, while my wife Anna is great that remembering this and helps me remember too. When the kids do something different, like watch a movie late, or just play late and we don't do a consistent routine, I notice they usually get grumpy and externally are selfish in their actions. 

I need to be more consistent with bed time. Generally I read them a book, and we pray. Sometimes I've been doing memory bible verses, but have not been consistent in that. This is a reminder to myself to try to be more consistent in the time, and the activities before bed.

P.S. Looking forward to more post from Chuck, even if not as regular as before.]]></description><link>https://ilyaradchenko.com/users/knownasilya/notes/cm0rab0bp0007e7p2ushz6ujl</link><guid isPermaLink="false">users/knownasilya/notes/cm0rab0bp0007e7p2ushz6ujl</guid><pubDate>Fri, 06 Sep 2024 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why write?]]></title><description><![CDATA[I enjoy writing (doesn't mean I'm good at it), but I have yet to build a habit out of it. I plan on changing that, because I can see the usefulness of writing. When you write you are forced to organize your thoughts so others can understand what you are trying to communicate. Writing will help with verbal communication, thinking, and convincing others of your ideas. It'll also help with any relationships you have, when you can communicate clearly. Don't fall into the trap of using AI to write for you; do your own thinking, grow, push yourself, and do hard things, because you wont regret it.


This is on of the reasons I'm working on writing tools like [Archegos](https://knownasilya.podia.com/archegos) and Typelog.]]></description><link>https://ilyaradchenko.com/users/knownasilya/notes/clucy2hob0001n3bapwp98epv</link><guid isPermaLink="false">users/knownasilya/notes/clucy2hob0001n3bapwp98epv</guid><pubDate>Fri, 29 Mar 2024 17:35:33 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Bad Habits and FOMO]]></title><description><![CDATA[I have to be honest, I've only picked up on this term about a year ago (maybe
longer) and at that time I didn't have any connection with the idea. A couple of
months ago, I inadvertently stumbled on it again while reading [Atomic Habits by
James Clear](https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits), and what an impact it had.

One of the ideas in that book talks about cues and cravings, in regard to making
good or bad habits. An example that James makes is in regard to checking your
phone, it goes like this:

Cue: A phone buzzes with a new text message.
Craving: You want to learn the contents of the message.
Response: You grab the phone and read the text.
Reward: You satisfy your craving to read the message. Grabbing your phone
becomes associated with your phone buzzing.
– James Clear (Atomic Habits, page 51)This example stirred something within me
because at that time I was dealing with checking Twitter way too much. I knew
about my bad habit, of picking up the phone and opening Twitter any time there
was a free moment or a time of silence. What I didn't know, was the reasoning
behind why I was checking it so often. Mainly because I had not taken the time
to analyze my habits.

The process of behavior change always starts with awareness. You need to be
aware of your habits before you can change them.
– James Clear (Atomic Habits, page 66)This is where FOMO, or the fear of missing out,  comes into play. I analyzed
this bad habit (did I mention that this was a bad habit?) and realized that I
was doing it because I was afraid to miss something happening in the tech
community, and specifically the [Ember](http://emberjs.com) community. I kept
analyzing and realized that I had the same bad habit with Github, which usually
occurred after Twitter had no content. So what now?

The first step is not what  or how, but who. You need to know who you want to
be. Otherwise, your quest for change is like a boat without a rudder.
– James Clear (Atomic Habits, page 40)This section really resonated for me and
told me what I already knew. And it's this: I won't change my habits if I don't
remember (or know) who I am. Notice how I said "who I am" instead of "who I want
to be". The reason this is important to me is because I have a solid identity
that is defined by my relationship with God. I need to remember who I am (a
child of God) so that I can focus on being who I am already. This sounds a bit
strange, but in Christianity, there is an idea, "already but not yet", which
illustrates that there is an ultimate reality already, but the time-based
version of that reality is still catching up. God already sees me as His son,
even though presently I have bad habits and sin because Jesus the perfect Son of
God has paid for my sins (past, present, and future) and called me his co-heir.

I really needed to remember that my identity and worth are not in how current I
am in the Ember scene or how much I know. It's not in my job or my own vision of
my future, but my identity and worth are in my relationship with God.]]></description><link>https://ilyaradchenko.com/users/knownasilya/notes/cltlvdsap000xn3bbcaqgcg84</link><guid isPermaLink="false">users/knownasilya/notes/cltlvdsap000xn3bbcaqgcg84</guid><pubDate>Sun, 10 Mar 2024 18:50:34 GMT</pubDate></item></channel></rss>